Ann Coulter, listen up. We are not to blame for society’s problems
by Rachel Sarah
Filed under Kids, Single Moms
Ann Coulter, what is your problem?
We thought you were done picking on single moms. Apparently not.
On “The Today Show” this morning, you said:
“Look at any societal problem, and it is a problem of single motherhood.”
When Matt Lauer implied that your comment was outrageous, you said: “It’s not outrageous. It’s a fact!”
“Do you think that EVERY society problem is due to single mothers?” Lauer asked.
You said: “New illegitimate babies are being born every year, being raised without fathers, new murders are occurring every day…”
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The fact that Barack Obama — who was raised almost exclusively by a single mom — is President -elect must have really pushed a button for you. Because you’ve been in full-force attack mode on single moms ever since.
Your newest book, Guilty: Liberal “Victims” and Their Assault on America, came out this week — and it’s time for us to have a word with you.
In a January 5 interview with Sean Hannity of Fox News, he brought up the “single mother issue” with you.
In particular, he talked about a young, unmarried couple having unprotected sex in the back of a car.
He said: “This is a choice to get in the car. This is a choice to take off the clothes. This is a choice to have sex. You do it of your own volition.”
“Right,” you said during the interview.
“And it’s a choice not to give an illegitimate child up for adoption, which is, I say, surprisingly, I think to me, an interesting statistic, is that adopted children rank better on every measure of well-being.”
Ann, no one thinks that children should be raising children.
It’s poverty — not single motherhood — that puts the children of teen single moms at high risk for poor educational and social outcomes.
“Illegitimate?”
We couldn’t believe our ears. Who would even would think to label any child of less intrinsic value than another?
But you didn’t stop there. You went on to claim that single mothers have launched “an endless attack on the nuclear family.”
Please.
Do you ever actually stop and think before you speak?
Single moms against marriage? Single moms don’t like men? Single moms are irresponsible and naive?
If you ever took the time to actually have a conversation with a few single moms, you would see that nothing you say has even a kernel of truth.
Your attacks are so ridiculous that it’s hard to take you seriously. We’re not the only single mom who thinks so.
We’re tired of your trash talk about single moms.
We’d love to hear what single moms (and dads) have to say about Ann Coulter’s latest attack on you and your kids.
You can also read Rachel’s “Open Letter to Ann Coulter” at MomLogic.com here.
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Ann Coulter is a freaking crackpot. I don’t give any value to anything she says on ANY subject at all.
And you are right, it is NOT single parenthood that is the reason for societies problems, it is poverty, and poverty alone.
And not all families living in poverty are single parent homes, a lot of families in poverty have 2 parent households with both parents working, struggling, and still living with incomes below the poverty level.
I just don’t let myself get worked up over anything that Coulter says, she’s batshit crazy and everyone knows it.
I’ll leave off getting into the social/economics of the subject. To me the biggest mistaken concept that this woman appears to have is that she seems to think that all these single mothers have never been married. I will admit that not all single mothers are divorced or widowed and I don’t know the numbers to make a comparison.
I can say that I’ve met MANY single moms, since it was one of the things I looked for when I started dating again. I can say that less than 5% of all the mothers I’ve met had always been single. (less than 10% of all the single mothers I know have always been single.
So from that perspective you’d have to say that the ex husband is as much a part of the problem. Of course I guess they could argue that women like my ex are not the problem because I won costody, so she’s not a single mother. I’m the problem now because I’m the single dad.
*laugh* It’s almost comical that someone can say these things publically when they are talking about what is likely the minority of single mothers.
And for a final note. All the single mothers I’ve met are all working and doing well for themselves, so I don’t see where they create any more of a problem than a working single dad, or anyone single, married person, with or without children.
I think Ann Coulter is crazy like a fox. She is a hateful person who is engaged in endless self-promotion. We would all be better off if we just ignored her. She says and writes this stuff for attention. She knows nothing about me, my life or my choices, and I couldn’t care less what she thinks.
I also think Coulter is a crackpot. Very hateful.
But.
Out of all that crap, there is a point, and you’re missing it.
I read several of these single-mom blogs, and frankly, there is A LOT of sentiment AGAINST the nuclear family. It’s often spoke of in terms of “I don’t need a man, I can do this myself”.
I’m a liberal, but I believe strongly in the two-parent system.
Single women need to choose better, and not jump -quickly- in the sack “unprotected” with a guy they -think- is the love of their life. Yes, a lot of guys are jerks who don’t want to own up to the responsibility. This usually only comes out AFTER the child is born (or sooner – when the man realizes his girlfriend is pregnant!) Women need to do more “vetting” before making the child commitment.
And by the way, why is it that there is a connection between povery and single mothers? We may not like to hear it, but there is a link.
Jim H: You may be misinterpreting the “I can do it myself” sentiments on some single parent blogs to be “anti-nuclear family”, when, in truth, those words are simply meant to cheer on single moms as they face a daunting array of challenges.
I’m surely not in denial about the strong correlation between single motherhood and poverty. Teen-aged single moms with no job skills and few prospects and divorced single moms whose standard of living plummets after divorce make up a big percentage of those single moms in poverty.
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts.
Twitter @ http://www.singlemommyhood.com
Jim, I hope you see that Dr. Leah and I are both strong believers in the “two parent household.”
We became parents with that vision. But life didn’t work out that way.
We encourage men to visit our site — thanks!! — because we really do believe that a healthy, thriving family includes both male and female support.
I have run across the blogs you mention and they sadden me. The writers seem to feel very fearful.
Can you blame a single parent for being fearful?
It’s not just about the parent anymore. They have to find someone who is not only “everything” they want, but also everything for their child(ren). I went through my share of women who weren’t right for my children, but most were childless (hense my switch to only seeking single mothers).
I don’t blame any single parent (male or female) for being cautious and fearful. It’s tough finding the right person (and hoping they really are “the right person”)
Does anyone realize that Ann Coulter does this ALL for attention and clearly doesn’t care about rational thought? She’s pathological, probably a narcissist, and CLEARLY gets a thrill from creating chaos. Beyond cash, it’s all about pissing you and me off. Writing letters to her to oppose her insanity just makes her squeal with glee because she’s getting the attention she craves.
I’ll admit I’m a conservative. And as a conservative even I find the histrionics of Ann Coulter extreme. However, once I got past the personality and read a few of her books, I realized Ann Coulter is one of the most brilliant minds alive today. Some of your statements like: “she’s batshit crazy” or “she doesn’t care about rational thought” just proves the point she makes in most of her books, that liberals don’t care about the facts, only about winning and they will generally resort to name calling when they can’t win an argument.
Why don’t you all discuss the FACTS? Could it be because you don’t care about facts? My mother-in-law is a teacher. When my wife and I got married four and a half years ago her mother invited many of her teacher friends. During the reception I said I felt sorry for teachers today because in my youth (the 1950’s and early 60’s) ALL parents sided with the teacher, knowing it is in the nature of a child to lie when they’ve done wrong and got caught. But today, SINGLE parents routinely side with their child and believe the teacher is wrong. Everyone of the 5 or 6 teachers there gave me an enthusiastic thank you for telling it like it is and said I should consider being a principle of their school.
Children are being robbed of a father by mothers who jump into the sack too quickly, following their emotions and ignoring the truths of by-gone days (like, “why would he want to buy the cow if he’s getting his milk for free”). And often, when single mom’s do find a man who loves hte kids, she’ll dump him because he’s not perfect, he doesn’t meet her list of expectations.
Children are being robbed of discipline by single mothers who think a good parent is first and foremost their child’s best friend. Parental discipline must be consistent or the child soon learns how to manipulate the parent and call the shots. Sadly, that’s the situation in the majority of single parent AND two-parent homes in America. Just watch any episode of Super Nanny for proof.
As a former step-parent who saw his future step-children manipulating their mom, lying, stealing and pushing all her buttons to make her feel guilty for doing the right thing, I have some personal experience to back up what I say here. She didn’t have clue that any of that was going on, because she believed, like most single moms believe, that all she had to do was love them and they’d turn out to be great children. This is precisely the attitude I’m seeing here. If you love your children more than your own self-image then read the report she sites and get the FACTS. If you can then prove her wrong, more power to you.
Ann Coulter never had a child
or a marriage it would not be
good for that hate she’s is piad to spew her fellow man.She would
lose a credit because it’s easy to judge when you never do something
you can’t fall short
I have never heard of this woman before finding this post, probably because I don’t live in the USA. Her rantings haven’t made it into my country – atleast not to my knowledge. Talk about making the blood boil in less than 60seconds! And this is coming from a woman!! Sorry, I’m not a man-hater, but most absurd comments about single mothers tend to come from men who have no idea.
Most single mums are not solo parents by choice and we should be congratulated on doing such amazing jobs raising our children. We all know it’s listed as a 2 person role which makes single parents all the more amazing that they are doing all the work on their own. Single parents need to be supported not blamed for societies problems. How about blaming the parent who walked out not the parent who is doing the best they can!
There are a few strong opinions posted here, not all that I agree with. Times have changed, parenting styles have changed. Not only because of the higher single parent rate but also due to more research being done in the psychological fields about raising children, their self esteem, the affects of smacking etc. The days of “children should be seen and not heard” are long gone and I for one am glad for it!
With reference to the teacher/student story… there is some truth in your words I concede BUT that is not the whole story. In the days when the parents sided with the teachers and the children had no voice, how much child abuse went un-noticed or worse, not believed? Better to have safe children and more talks between all involved then ignoring your child when your meant to be their protector. If anything, single parents feel this responsibility more keenly than coupled parents who can share the heavy weight of keeping their child safe and that may be the reason we go in to do battle for our kids more quickly than coupled parents might.
Sorry – off the topic now! I could rave on for a lot longer but I’ll spare you all.