Comments on: On Facebook, what’s your status?

By: April

April — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 23:59:06 +0000

I'm happily single. I don't expect that to change anytime soon. The only thing that bothers me is when I go to FB, all of the ads they show me are for dating sites. Just because I'm single doesn't mean I want to date! April’s last blog post..Pink Friday

By: Tracey

Tracey — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 17:31:03 +0000

I don’t list my relationship status on FB. I am not sure I would want to use it as a dating facilitator. It is too easy to forget how many people are seeing what is written on your wall. I am “friends” with three ex boyfriends, all at their request. One old boyfriend (who has been married to his next girlfriend after me for years) opens a chat with me every time he sees me online. If I were his wife, I would cut him off FB, because he is definitely on the prowl.

By: Mama Dharma

Mama Dharma — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 06:21:25 +0000

Oh god. I had an embarrassing experience because I forgot how FB records every little damn thing you do. I just wanted to get rid of the “single” on my page…not even change it to “in a relationship.” If I’m single and I want you to know about it, you will. But then it showed up as a status change and I got a gazillion comments. Including from my boss.

Can you say embarrassing?

I don’t have any exes on FB but I’m friends with a few people I’ve dated once or twice. It doesn’t really bother me and I doubt they even check up on me.

One thing that was creepy was when an ex kept turning up under the “people you may know” section of FB. (Not someone I’d want to friend.) Eventually I figured out that you can just “x” that person out and FB will stop recommending them as a “person you may know.” Ugh. Still, I’m addicted to it

Mama Dharma’s last blog post..Marked for life.

By: Apples

Apples — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 05:44:39 +0000

I don’t list my status how uncool am I!

By: Canadian Bald Guy

Canadian Bald Guy — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 13:49:47 +0000

I joined Facebook just as my marriage was ending, so I had been “single” for the past two years.

In November of last year, I started dating someone. I was hesitant to update my status to “in a relationship” but just did it with little fanfare.

Unfortunately, the relationship didn’t last and last month I changed the status back to “single”. Needless to say, I was overwhelmed with wall posts and emails and people at work talking to me. So much so that I ended up blogging about it (the link below).

I’ve still got her as a friend on Facebook (for now…we’ll see how uncomfortable it gets) and I’ve got some other ex’s as friends, too (from older relationships). I don’t have my ex-wife, though…seems a bit creepy.

Canadian Bald Guy’s last blog post..When it rains…

By: M

Sat, 07 Mar 2009 06:53:22 +0000

Rachel, I know about data stored on servers, so I prefer to limit the data on me. So I guess privacy is the biggest issue for me.
My children (including those still at home) and I have each other’s phone numbers and email addresses. I read my email more often than I view facebook, but we usually just call each other.
Even my face book friend talks with me on the phone more than anything else.

By: Yummy Mammy

Yummy Mammy — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 02:07:09 +0000

Guilty on so many levels it’s not even funny. And I’ve even dumped via Facebook but then chickened out and blamed computer gremlins, dodgy software and anything else I could think of. And sadly heard about 2 old friends upcoming divorces via their status updates.

Given that I fully realise how bad I am with Facebook stalking I have the security set to the max and have a rule of not adding any potential love interests until they know me better. They don’t need to see drunken photos until they’ve actually seen me drunk in person

Yummy Mammy’s last blog post..Dating Dilemmas – 4MP Update

By: Rachel Sarah

Rachel Sarah — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 01:04:43 +0000

Thank you John F!!

See why I wanted him to open up about his, uh, story?

John, you have really summed up the Facebook Relationship Status. Thanks. Anyone else relate?

Karissa: I love the fact that you’re so honest… you de-friend your exes so you won’t feel tempted to stalk them.

We understand!

By: John F

John F — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 00:54:27 +0000

Guilty as charged Rachel! I am relatively new to FB and it is funny how so many people take it as gospel. I am terminally single and for giggles, changed my status to "engaged". Well, I had dozens of congratulations on my page, many emails and an irate call from my ex wife. You know the old "so do you have something you want to tell me?" line. It was funny, but the only one who doubted me was one of my first girlfriends from 30 years ago with whom I just reconnected. Then I changed it back and got a flutter of "oh my I am so sorry" posts. It was a great insight to the power of FB. But I do have my ex as a friend (and several ex girlfriends), I am somewhat an open book and really don;t care too much about other peoples' voyeurism fetish. But if I was concerned or wanted to keep some exes out of the current loop, I woudl likely make a list in FB and tweak the privacy settings so they can only see what I want them to see! John F’s last blog post..Now We’re Cooking!

By: Karissa

Karissa — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 00:46:32 +0000

My facebook status is unlisted, so it doesn't show if I am single or not. I assume everyone knows I'm single, but I don't flaunt it. I had a brief relationship with someone last summer thanks to facebook. We hadn't seen in each in a few years and used 'Scrabulous' to flirt and eventually hook up. I have had to de-friend pretty well everyone I've dated, including my son's father. I'm prone to online-stalking when I'm bored, and I didn't want any temptation. As well, I didn't want to give them the option of checking up on me either. Karissa’s last blog post..Money talks with the Ex