Comments on: Help! Our kids don’t get along http://www.singlemommyhood.com/2009/05/help-our-kids-dont-get-along/ a whole new way to think about real life Sat, 31 Jul 2010 15:24:41 +0000 http://wordpress.org/ hourly 1 By: Rachel Sarah http://www.singlemommyhood.com/2009/05/help-our-kids-dont-get-along/comment-page-1/#comment-5593 Rachel Sarah Thu, 22 Apr 2010 01:35:44 +0000 http://www.singlemommyhood.com/?p=3577#comment-5593 @Sarah: Thank you so much for your honest, open comment. We know this resonates with many parents here. We'll get back to you soon with some ideas. @Sarah: Thank you so much for your honest, open comment. We know this resonates with many parents here. We’ll get back to you soon with some ideas.

]]> By: Sarah http://www.singlemommyhood.com/2009/05/help-our-kids-dont-get-along/comment-page-1/#comment-5592 Sarah Thu, 22 Apr 2010 01:16:30 +0000 http://www.singlemommyhood.com/?p=3577#comment-5592 Hello, I have been dating a man for nearly a year. He is a few years older than me. He's divorced with 3 children: 16, 10, and 8. I am also divorced with two children: ages 13 and 5. Everything goes well except when our sons - whoa re 5 and 10 -- get around each other. The 10 year old teases the 5 year old then back and forth, they exchange dirty looks, and probably enjoy seeing each other get in trouble. There's name calling, too, mainly from his son. His father does very little to correct the matter other than a few words due to his ex wife(his son runs and tells her his dad is being mean) behavior. I'm ready to just drop it all and walk away,I strongly think the 10 year old should act more mature but his dad says I shouldn't excuse my 5 year old cause he is old enough to know better. The boys used to get along pretty fair till the ex wife started adding things in like my 5 year old was beating her son up. Just ridiculous things. She even went as far to threaten my son. Any advice would be great, its really hard when I can only parent my children. No co-parenting allowed.:( Hello, I have been dating a man for nearly a year. He is a few years older than me. He’s divorced with 3 children: 16, 10, and 8.

I am also divorced with two children: ages 13 and 5. Everything goes well except when our sons – whoa re 5 and 10 — get around each other. The 10 year old teases the 5 year old then back and forth, they exchange dirty looks, and probably enjoy seeing each other get in trouble. There’s name calling, too, mainly from his son.

His father does very little to correct the matter other than a few words due to his ex wife(his son runs and tells her his dad is being mean) behavior. I’m ready to just drop it all and walk away,I strongly think the 10 year old should act more mature but his dad says I shouldn’t excuse my 5 year old cause he is old enough to know better. The boys used to get along pretty fair till the ex wife started adding things in like my 5 year old was beating her son up. Just ridiculous things. She even went as far to threaten my son. Any advice would be great, its really hard when I can only parent my children. No co-parenting allowed.:(

]]> By: Dr. Leah http://www.singlemommyhood.com/2009/05/help-our-kids-dont-get-along/comment-page-1/#comment-4146 Dr. Leah Mon, 28 Dec 2009 11:31:30 +0000 http://www.singlemommyhood.com/?p=3577#comment-4146 <strong>@Willie</strong> This relationship dilemma will take care of itself. This is classic two/three year old behavior. And, at this age, kids are not reliable informants. Just try to make the best of the situation ...separate the kids, if necessary. Four year olds are a whole different ball game. Thanks so much for joining the conversation. Keep us posted on how things are going. @Willie This relationship dilemma will take care of itself. This is classic two/three year old behavior. And, at this age, kids are not reliable informants. Just try to make the best of the situation …separate the kids, if necessary. Four year olds are a whole different ball game. Thanks so much for joining the conversation. Keep us posted on how things are going.

]]> By: Willie http://www.singlemommyhood.com/2009/05/help-our-kids-dont-get-along/comment-page-1/#comment-4139 Willie Mon, 28 Dec 2009 01:41:55 +0000 http://www.singlemommyhood.com/?p=3577#comment-4139 I recently met a wonderful woman, who we both have toddlers near 3 years old. Supposedly, at daycare, my son is sharing and well behaved. And also, her daughter never whines elsewhere. But when they are together, he "takes" all her toys, she whines and usually he is the one in trouble. I'm not fond of punishing my son for things I don't see, it can be hard to catch kids in the act. I also don't want to go by the word of another 2 year old child. In my opinion she tends to whine a little more than most kids, a tattle tale over anything minuscule. If you put a toy down, another kid will pick it up. It seems the golden rule to me. But on the other hand, I don't want bad deeds to go unnoticed. This has put a strain on our relationship, and I fear it may end our engagement. Is there any hope for this situation? Besides cameras and secret service? I recently met a wonderful woman, who we both have toddlers near 3 years old. Supposedly, at daycare, my son is sharing and well behaved. And also, her daughter never whines elsewhere. But when they are together, he “takes” all her toys, she whines and usually he is the one in trouble. I’m not fond of punishing my son for things I don’t see, it can be hard to catch kids in the act. I also don’t want to go by the word of another 2 year old child. In my opinion she tends to whine a little more than most kids, a tattle tale over anything minuscule. If you put a toy down, another kid will pick it up. It seems the golden rule to me. But on the other hand, I don’t want bad deeds to go unnoticed. This has put a strain on our relationship, and I fear it may end our engagement. Is there any hope for this situation? Besides cameras and secret service?

]]> By: MindyMom http://www.singlemommyhood.com/2009/05/help-our-kids-dont-get-along/comment-page-1/#comment-1657 MindyMom Fri, 22 May 2009 22:07:55 +0000 http://www.singlemommyhood.com/?p=3577#comment-1657 I don't think the kids not getting along is as big of an issue as different parenting styles. If your styles are similar then working out the kinks between the kids will be much easier. If not it could be a source of contention for everyone. <abbr><em>MindyMom’s last blog post..<a href="http://singlemommindy.blogspot.com/2009/05/me-common-denominator.html" rel="nofollow">Me: The Common Denominator</a></abbr></em> I don’t think the kids not getting along is as big of an issue as different parenting styles. If your styles are similar then working out the kinks between the kids will be much easier. If not it could be a source of contention for everyone.

MindyMom’s last blog post..Me: The Common Denominator

]]> By: chai_girl http://www.singlemommyhood.com/2009/05/help-our-kids-dont-get-along/comment-page-1/#comment-1656 chai_girl Fri, 22 May 2009 15:34:39 +0000 http://www.singlemommyhood.com/?p=3577#comment-1656 I haven't had to deal with this at the toddler stage. I just know that I'm more hesitant to introduce any new guy to my daughter because you never what is going to come out of a teenager's mouth. If I bring him home when she is in one of her "the world hates me" moods, I don't think he'd ever come back! I haven’t had to deal with this at the toddler stage.

I just know that I’m more hesitant to introduce any new guy to my daughter because you never what is going to come out of a teenager’s mouth. If I bring him home when she is in one of her “the world hates me” moods, I don’t think he’d ever come back!

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