Comments on: When should a love interest read your blog?

By: Desiree

Desiree — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 16:21:02 +0000

I would tell a guy I’m dating that I blog within the first or second conversation. My feeling is: if you don’t want someone to see something, don’t write it on your blog, or password it. The last relationship I was in… he didn’t understand the need to broadcast my feelings and my life to people I don’t know and will likely never meet. He claimed he was a “private” person, so I used a nickname for him until we had been together for about a year.

Since moving to NJ, I’ve made all entries prior to my move “private” so that no one but me can read them. I looked at it as an opportunity to not dwell on the past after my heartbreak and, instead, propel myself forward while meeting new people and making new memories.

Sorry, got off on a tangent there.
Desiree´s last blog ..Protected: Freedom

By: Kisha

Kisha — Fri, 05 Jun 2009 00:21:28 +0000

I’m in the early stages with a guy right now…the “getting to know you” stuff. So far it’s going well. I didn’t volunteer my blog address but he mentioned starting a blog recently. I encouraged him & then told him about mine.

I was blogging before…but more of a journal. That was far too private to share; no one had that blog address. But, I agree that its good insight into who I am and what makes me tick.

By: Nicole

Nicole — Sun, 24 May 2009 02:53:50 +0000

My boyfriend knows about my blog. He’s seen my site and knows the URL.

But, I’ve explained to him that while I would be okay with him reading it, it’s like a journal to me. A place to sort my thoughts out.
A place to vent.

I expressed my desire for it to remain that way as well.

He respects that.

He’s told me that he won’t read it if I think I will stop using it as such.
(Although, not being a blogger himself, he can’t understand why I would write and post things that I wouldn’t actually want anyone I know to read — and I can understand his POV)

He is absolutely very curious about it — especially when I post about him and I don’t mind showing him now and then.

I just prefer to keep it “mine.”

Nicole’s last blog post..I. Am. Exhausted.

By: Mike

Mike — Wed, 20 May 2009 01:48:28 +0000

After 2-3 months. I would be okay with them not tell me about it. It's okay to have a part of your life that you aren't sharing with me. It's not hurting me and if it's helping you great. Mike’s last blog post..It's So Logical

By: Abby Carter

Abby Carter — Tue, 19 May 2009 18:07:31 +0000

Alas, I write under my own name and have my website and blog linked. Anyone who googles me can find my blog. I had one date tell me that he knew about my blog but decided not to read it, preferring to get to know me the normal way. I appreciated that, though he found someone else after we had been on 4 dates, so jury is still out on whether that would work over a longer period of time. I did tell him after that I had written about him, but haven't heard his reaction, or even if he read any of it. i have contemplated starting a new, more anonymous blog, so I could write more freely, but one seems to be keeping me plenty busy. Abby Carter’s last blog post..Life with a set of Vietnamese Instructions

By: Amy Sue Nathan

Amy Sue Nathan — Tue, 19 May 2009 11:29:44 +0000

I’ve made the mistake of telling dates about my blogs and my writing in general. Either they jump on the bandwagon and I eventually wish they hadn’t — or they are really not interested (um, those relationships don’t last). I think blogs are good for strangers and people you know really, really well. The in betweeners, not really.

By: Ameya

Ameya — Mon, 18 May 2009 23:45:54 +0000

I would give it as soon as they asked, and i’d mention it whenever it came up, no waiting or anything. For me, I would never write anything on a public blog that I wouldn’t want that person to read. Partially because it’d be so easy to get on my comp to check their mail one day and find it (then i’d be a jerk for hiding it, even more so if i talk about them) partially because i would NOT like finding out that someone was blogging about me (even if they changed names) and i didn’t know it, partially because i think its one of those ways to get to know me better.

HOWEVER, my Livejournal is another story. I’ve let my boyfriend go there, but i privatized a lot of entries, and we ended up stopping that so i can speak my mind. But all my entries are friends-only. He or anyone else can’t just stumble upon them, plus the people know me and when i’m venting they know that its not a direct reflection on who he is as a person, etc etc. To me a non-public place like that is same as chatting with a group of friends. Blogs that can be seen by any have different respect boundaries to me.

By: PT-LawMom

PT-LawMom — Mon, 18 May 2009 23:06:01 +0000

I was very private about my blog for a long time. Even no only a few very close friends know about it. But I tend to agree with Barry. I am very open and only the FWBs/sex buddies get written about negatively. If I write about someone I am dating, they are usually reading and we have usually discussed the journaling/processing nature of my blog. I think trust and transparency are very important. Whether they choose to read is another thing. Ex Blue Eyes still reads daily and Mr. V checks in at least once a week. I try not to censor myself. PT-LawMom’s last blog post..Crazy/confusing/weird weekend

By: MommaSunshine

MommaSunshine — Mon, 18 May 2009 20:11:50 +0000

I dated a fellow blogger, and when things ended they got...awkward. I decided after that to keep my blog private. The guy that I recently started seeing knows that I blog, but that I want to keep it private. It may be something that I ultimately end up sharing with the right person when the time is right...but I haven't reached that comfort level with anyone yet... MommaSunshine’s last blog post..Happy Birthday To Me

By: Leah Klungness

Leah Klungness — Mon, 18 May 2009 17:18:31 +0000

Thanks, Barry. A “rave” *chuckling* about his skills would likely be well received and put the blog in an entirely positive light.