Comments on: How much is too much on Facebook?

By: Natasha

Natasha — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 15:49:35 +0000

As a new mom (my son is 4 months old), I am constantly putting up new pics of Butterball on my FB page. I have to – I moved a year ago and most of my good friends haven’t met him yet. In fact, I’ve been ordered by some friends to post more. I guess it helps that my kid is friggin adorable! And I, too, have my privacy setting set so that only friends can see my photos.

I think Dr. Leah is in the dark ages on this one. Sorry

By: Legal Editor Mom

Legal Editor Mom — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 19:10:35 +0000

Like most of the people here, I post some pics of my daughter on FB, but I also have my pricacy settings set, and only friend people I know. Much of my family is out of the country and they’re all on FB and we all enjoy keeping up with each other and all of our children, virtually.

Even a close friend who was always super, super private has joined the FB movement and now posts pics of his kids.

By: Alicia

Alicia — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 04:36:51 +0000

I’m guilty! My FB is basically a gloried bragbook of my son’s pics. But I’m very selective of my friends – and most don’t even bother looking at the pics anymore! But I love pics – mine and others’. And its thanks to FB that I found pics of sperm donor’s 2 sons (my son’s half brothers)!
Is it kinda weird that i have this whole collection of photos of my son’s blood relatives??? I figure MAYBE when he’s grown and if he’s interested I show him…. for now, FB let’s me (stealthily) collect photos of his brothers, aunts and uncles!

By: Canadian Bald Guy

Canadian Bald Guy — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 02:25:56 +0000

I’ve got pics of my kids on FB. For me, I post a few pics at a time…just some of my favorites because I’m a proud parent. I don’t think it’s any different than shoving a photo album in somebody’s face other than the fact that they don’t have to look at the pics.

I just like showing them off because I think they’re awesome. And I really don’t see the problem in that.

By: judy

judy — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 21:34:16 +0000

Phil,
I have a 151/2 year old going to be a sophomore in high school this year.

I have always had positive firm relationships with school staff, I meet her good friends parents (yes even now in high school), she’s allowed one visit to a friends then that friend has to reciprocate by coming here before she allowed there any more.

She is a leader in training this summer at an overnight camp. I have meet the counselors/staff supervising her and 2 other trainings and parents by attending the functions.

She is also an A student, a Mayor’s Scholar recipient and is involved in volunteer agencies.

Part of growing up as a family is letting go. I believe by this age her morals are well in place and whether I am there or not she is making her own decisions. I don’t need or want to know everything ’cause i trust her, she has proven herself as trustworthy and we have a strong..not perfect..relationship.

I guess this shows that all families do things dofferently

By: Amy Anderson

Amy Anderson — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 20:00:50 +0000

I recently saw some photos of my male friend’s daugther on FB. He’s a single parent and kind of in that “trying to be her friend” area. She’s 14 and the photos were so suggestive (pearls falling out of her mouth, low cut tops with come hither eyes, posing as if on the cover of a X rated movie) Not appropriate for a girl that age on Facebook. I alerted him right away and he ignored it. She “unfriended” me right away.

She’s now dealing with a bad reputation at 14 and it could have been prevented with a little extra parental control and guidance. Those photos are there forever if someone wants to find them.

I love seeing my friends new babies or seeing how quickly they have grown. If my friends with kids didn’t post photos of them that is when I would think it was odd since it’s such a common practice.

Again, it comes down to personal responsibility and vigilance that we are doing what is right for our kids. If we are constantly in fear of the “what if” we deny ourselves, our families and our kids so much of the simple joys in life. A little common sense goes a long way to a easier life.

By: Apples

Apples — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 18:07:19 +0000

Also I love pictures so yeah if your wondering if anyone ever looks at all those pictures you post it would be me. I also also agree that if someone doesn’t want to see it the digital age makes it easy and painless to just not click.

By: Apples

Apples — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 18:05:52 +0000

I have a family site that I post all my daughters pictures on so that they can see since most my family doesn’t see my daughter much. Also I don’t ever get pictures printed to send, even at Christmas they can buy them off the site I post at if they really want it. I know I am mean! LOL! But as for facebook I am the other extreme for my facebook page remains blank.. Maybe one of these days I will suck it up and at least post a few.

By: Rachel Sarah

Rachel Sarah — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 17:49:40 +0000

@Phil and @Judy: Re: teens, thanks to both of you for pointing out that this isn’t necessarily about keeping tabs on your teen… It’s simply a fun way to see what your independent kid is up to.

Also, for parents with split custody, I imagine that catching glimpses of your teen when he/she is gone for weekends at a time is fun. Yes?

By: Mike

Mike — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 17:06:17 +0000

I agree it’s a digital age and access and distribution is so much easier nowadays. For me I just chronicle my life and when my son is with me he’s there too.