What happened to the digital souvenirs after your break-up?
by Dr. Leah
Filed under All, Featured, Relationships
Valentine’s Day is over – and some of you are relieved. If you’re in the midst of a painful break-up, or just recovering, images of happy couples in love are painful reminders. Maybe you’ve agonized over your own relationship “souvenirs,” especially the photos. We understand. All of us have grappled with this dilemma.
So, it’s time to open up this conversation. Many of you have told us (our hands are raised) that you hold onto certain memories — for example, wedding albums and other photos of extended family – for your kids’ sake. We’re talking about a different kind of keepsake. For example, how about those hotel photos you took together on your wild weekend getaway with that notorious bad boy? Or the passion fueled texts – images included – when you battled your ex in court while still madly in love. iPhones and other technology make it super easy to capture the moment – we’re sure you get what we mean …
Often, red hot chemistry keeps a relationship together, for a while. But, when it’s over, what about those photos and videos? Have you ever worried that your ex is holding onto them? Have you ever spent a sleepless night worrying about photos of yourself floating around cyberspace? Or, stashed away with your ex’s adult toys?
So, we’re very curious to know: [No judgments]
Do you have a digital souvenir “policy{? Perhaps, you’d never pose for a potentially compromising photo?
Or do you include return and/or assured destruction of such photos as part of the break-up?
Maybe you’ve hidden away such photos for your own pleasure or amusement?
If so, how do you keep these photos away from prying eyes?
Personal experiences are always welcome.
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I kept the usual for the kids, but everything else is gone. I don’t care if he still has pictures and stuff I sent him, but I am sad for him if he does. I figured it was just good electronic housekeeping – I did the same with so much stuff after the split. Lingerie that he liked got dumped, his favorite liquor, dumped, etc etc. I guess once the love left it was easy to just remove him from that part of my life, where there was passion and lust still.
I admit that there is a really hot picture a man I was dating sent me that I still have on my phone because I can’t bear to get rid of it! But the ex? No freaking way!
Twitter @ tsquest
Oh I probably should have a digital policy for sure! Sadly, I didn’t and after a relationship with a deployed soldier, I probably have my own fan club in the Middle East.
Oh well. It was fun while it lasted!
Twitter @ MommyMe
Oh boy!! Rule of thumb……..keep your face out of the pictures and no videos unless YOU get to keep them! LOL! And always be nice after the breakup, don’t want him/her using them as a weapon. Ugh.
Twitter @ http://barbaradoduk.com
As for sex pics/videos yah once it is out there – it is out of your hands forever – such is the way of the electronic media. Just hope that your ex isn’t a mean person that would expose them…
My baby’s daddy had a DVD souvenir full of sex pics and sex videos of his ex before me. That never sat right with me when we were together. Why was he hanging on to it! Did he watch it? If so, that is pathetic. I am sure he still has it too.
We never did anything like that together. He never asked. I guess I was NOT that special.
But as for non-sexual digital pictures, I deleted from my computer any that weren’t really relevant. For instance, during our getting to know one another phase, we exchanged childhood photos and past photos in the story sharing phase. What do I need to hang on to a picture of him as a kid for? I only kept pictures of him and I from our relationship period, in my scrap book – for our child (so she can have the illusion that he once loved her mummy LOL) if she wants them later in her life. Any photos of just him alone, without me or someone I know, I deleted. He is also a ‘musician’ so he had also given me his homemade rock videos LOL Those got deleted too. He never (and yes I mean NEVER) once gave me any kind of present or gift, so there were no mementos to toss. LOL