We received an email recently from a single woman — who has never been married and has no kids –  about a married guy she’s involved with from work.

“Here’s how it started,” she says. “I work with a guy who told me when we’d first met that his wife has cheated on him a few times. And she doesn’t love him anymore.”

She knows that we’re on the record against dating married men.

And that both of us know first hand the perils of dating a guy still attached to his ex.

She has also heard plenty of truth from you about what to expect when you date a separated guy.

So, we’re hoping you can help out this single woman. She’s got no experience dating a guy with kids.

And she needs a big dose of practical advice. Here’s what she told us:

Things seem fairly obvious to us. So, we’re worried about her. They;re always huddled in conversation at work — and co-workers have noticed. He always wants to know what she’s doing, and with whom.

“I normally don’t date guys with children,” she says. “I know this might just be transitional relationship?  I don’t think he’s ready for a real relationship.  ”

And here’s what she is asking you:

Should I keep things the way they are and give him some time? Or, should I stay completely away and definitely stop having sex with him?

Please offer some advice to our single sister — straight from your heart (and gut).

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Yes, I admit it: I watch Jon and Kate Plus 8.

For those of you who have been doing more productive things in the evening, this is a TLC reality show featuring Jon and Kate Gosselin, who are raising one set of twins and sextuplets.  (Hey, even the Sanity Fairy ™ needs a break every so often!)

Kate is the super-organized, highly directive, and opinionated “boss” of the family. Jon is the hapless husband who apparently has stopped any pretense of employment.

Jon basically follows Kate’s directions and exerts very little authority in the household. Kate has been accused of belittling him. Kate has quit her career as a nurse.

Basically, the antics of the the kids support the family and make it possible for them to live in a swanky new house and enjoy fabulous family jaunts and fantasy vacations. Kate is now doing a lot of media work, which means that she travels away from home a lot. Obviously, the Gosselins have lots of paid help behind the scenes to assist with childcare and household chores.

The final episode of Season 4 of Jon & Kate Plus 8, however, has ignited the blogosphere. Kate previously told viewers that she and Jon are having some challenges, which they are attempting to work through.  Jon, looking uncomfortable with his face tilted away from the camera, mumbled a not so convincing response. Jon apparently feels he has lost his personal identity as “Jon” and now is just part of the “Jon and Kate Plus 8″ package.

Clearly, Kate is likely upset about the photo of Jon, taken at a bar with several flirty college girls, which has been plastered over the Internet along with rumors that he was observed making out and dirty dancing. Rumors are also flying that Jon has moved in with his mother who lives not far from Jon and Kate’s new digs.  The show took pains to tell viewers that Jon was caring for his mother who reportedly broke her foot.

Reportedly, Jon spent Valentine’s Day away from Kate.

Jon has reportedly been overheard saying, “We might be getting a divorce.”

TLC didn’t catch any of Jon’s alleged antics on camera.

So, what do you think? Do you think that Jon might be cheating and talking divorce?

Do you think Kate will join our singlemommyhood community?

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