You might have heard at Single Mom Seeking that I’ve met a new guy.

We haven’t even reached the two-month mark yet — so I’m really glad that I’ve kept my romantic life separate from my parenting life.

But if all continues to go well — and it’s going really well! — I do eventually want my third grader to know about this relationship. And I do imagine introducing my child to him someday…

Of  course, I turned to Dr. Leah — our very own Sanity Fairy ™ — for some advice.

And here’s what Dr. Leah has to say:

We’ve all heard unhappy tales about parents who keep their dating life entirely hidden from their kids. (After all, that ‘s easy to do with a bit of creativity and a smattering of subterfuge.)

One mom never uttered a peep to her kids about her dating life. But, after the relationship got serious, this mom dropped the “I’ve got a boyfriend” bombshell on the kids: “We’ve been dating for six months. And, tonight you’ll meet him…”

Of course, her kids were shocked and wound up resentful, confused, and angry. This is not exactly the ideal back drop for a budding romance.

We can count on Rachel not to make that same mistake.

Rachel is discovering that keeping your dating/sex life hush-hush is far easier when your kids are under age five.  (Ah, those were surely the simpler times for me!) Little kids ask far fewer questions and are content with the simplest of explanations.

You all know the familiar adage: little kids = little problems, big kids = big problems.

The Sanity Fairy ™ has some definite opinions about this topic, of course, but we’re interested in your take.

So, here’s the dilemma: how should Rachel broach the subject of having a new boyfriend with a savvy, sensitive tween?

Or, should she wait and “make sure” before she even considers involving her inquisitive tween?

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