We recently wrote about holding onto photos of your ex and his family — for your kids’ sake.

But here’s another dilemma we’ve thought a lot about: Are you still holding onto those “love souvenirs” from your past?

Yes, how about those hotel photos you took together on your weekend getaway? Or the pictures she texted you when you were on a business trip? How about that time you got bold and made a two-minute video?

Maybe you’re holding onto those photos because the chemistry is what held you together. Now what have you done with these, uh, reminders?

Likewise, have you ever worried that your ex is holding onto such photos or videos, too? Have you wondered what he/she is doing with them?

Have you ever spent a sleepless night wondering if there are any digital photos of yourself floating around? You might have read about that the guy who recently posted those revealing pictures of his girlfriend on the Internet. She has decided to take legal action for emotional distress and an invasion of her privacy.

We remember the good old days of the Polaroid camera, when photos were instantly developed. You had ONE copy then, and you knew exactly where it was. But today in the digital world, you need to trust that your ex isn’t going to get back at you by doing something as ludicrous as sharing these photos.

Here’s what we suggest:

1. Burn everything. Or, put all of those digital photos and videos in your computer’s trash. That’s easy and simple, right?

2. Password-protect any folders on your computer with these photos

3. Find a good hiding spot, as we suggested when we told you to hide those sex toys.

We’d love to hear: Are you holding onto any “love souvenirs”? Or, did you trash every last one of them?

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Wait until you hear this one:

Recently, a mom contacted us for some advice. She owns a few “toys” used for mild bondage sex play. But there had been, uh, an incident: her kid had found one the toys under her bed and asked, “Mommy, What’s this for?”

Yikes.

The thought of your child showing off your “fun hand cuffs” to his friends at school is a humiliating one. The gossip and snickering — and what your ex might say — is enough to kill that fantasy.

We encourage you to keep toys and games around for your own pleasure. Just make sure you have a foolproof hiding place.

This question might help you come up with some ideas: Where would you hide a pile of cash?

A simple lock box from the hardware store might do. (We know that some of you might have so many toys that one little lock box wouldn’t do!)

If you can splurge, sex stores such as Babeland sell “toy boxes” for this purpose. They come in a variety of pretty styles, with a lock and key.

Obviously, it’s your choice, but the most important consideration is keeping your “toys” out of your kids’ sight.

If your kids ask,” What’s in the box, Mommy?” and hear a mumbled explanation, their curiosity might peak. Explanations like “private things just for grown-ups” will signal all-out efforts to discover what is contained in this super secret box. It is just so much easier (and respectful to your kids) to keep your adult toys totally out of their awareness.

Some mothers, however, are more worried about other family members snooping:

“I’m not as worried about my kids finding my toys as I am about my mom,” single mom Elissa, who blogs at MommaLiss, told Rachel during an interview about this topic.

Elissa, who describes her mom as “so helpful but disturbingly old fashioned,” is also anxious that her mom might find her birth control because “in her world not being married means I most certainly wouldn’t need such a thing!”

Another single mom told us about an emergency evacuation of her building. Her mother, who was visiting, grabbed the kids, of course — but she also took the locked steel box, thinking that it contained important documents and, perhaps, cash and jewelry.

What this grandmother had taken was this SM’s “personal items.”

Luckily, the evacuation was brief and uneventful and no one unlocked the box. Enough said.

Now tell us: Where do you hide your toys?

Dads, we know that you’re hiding some, too!

Photo of “Devine Toy Box” from Babeland

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