We received a distressing e-mail from a single mom with a toddler:

“I’m dating a devoted single dad who has joint custody of his four-year-old son. We’ve been going out for a few months so far. He’s successful, smart, and sex with him is incredible.

But here’s the problem:

Although he has been divorced for years, he and his ex still have frequent screaming, profanity-spewing fights.

A few times, he has canceled our dates because he gets moody and distant after they ‘text fight’ or battle it out on the phone.

I try to ignore the constant fighting with his ex and concentrate on what’s working between us.

Until last night.”

She went on to say that immediately after having sex, “he bolted out of bed and grabbed his cell phone. It was midnight and he was checking for messages. There were none, but I saw him dialing. I asked him who he was calling. As if it was normal, he said,  ‘I’m calling [I don't want to say her name] to make sure everything is okay with my son.”

Say what?

Every single parent’s wish list for a partner definitely includes  “responsible co-parent.”

So, you can see why she’s confused.

Is he still attached to his ex in a twisted and scary way?

What does it mean that he’s calling his ex sixty seconds after making love to her?

She feels needy and jealous when he talks constantly to his son’s mother. Is she just too insecure?

This mom is now questioning her own feelings. Of course, constant fighting and name-calling do not make for healthy co-parenting. But she wonders if she just lacks experience dating a single dad. Is this normal?

Here’s a young single mom who could use our advice.

What’s your take on her sitatuion?

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