It’s only the second week into the thirteenth season of The Bachelor — and Jason Mesnick has already booted two of the four single moms off the show!

Can someone please enlighten us here? Does a reality show like the The Bachelor really shed light on the reality of dating single dads?

Secretly, we’ve always suspected that many single dads shy away from single moms. Now, for the first time ever, our worst fears are apparently confirmed.

We’d love to know:

Do single dads deliberately avoid single moms in order to keep the focus on their own kids?

We’ve spoken to many single dads who tell us they have already have more than enough of their own “ex drama.” They’re not interested in the complications of dating a single mom, especially her “ex drama” -– not to mention her own kid complications.

Is this true?

Last week, Jason Mesnick on The Bachelor sent home:

- Treasure, a 28-year-old nurse practitioner and single mom from Utah

- Stacia, a 24-year-old charity accountant and single mom from Utah

The two single moms remaining are:

- Megan, a 25-year-old lacrosse coach and single mom from Pennsylvania

- Stephanie, a widowed 34-year-old medical marketing representative from Alabama (that’s her in the photo, on the left).

Tell us, single dads: Do you avoid dating single moms?

And single moms, we’d love to hear your thoughts on this one!

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“The Bachelor” is set to premiere Monday on ABC with a two-hour special starting at 8 p.m.  If you haven’t yet heard, for the first time ever, the bachelor is a single dad.

Jason Mesnick is the 32-year-old divorced father of a three-year-old son who lives in Seattle.

The Seattle Times recently ran an exclusive interview with Jason Mesnick about his life as a single parent, during which he clarified that his son has met only the last two finalists on the show.

“There’s no way I wanted to introduce him to a group of 25 or 8 or 6, Mesnick told The Seattle Times. ” I knew I couldn’t fully give myself to somebody in my heart until I saw him with them, saw how he interacted with them and how they interacted with them. It’s something his mom and I talked about a lot.”

While we applaud Jason Mesnick for being cautious about introducing his son to potential girlfriends, we were caught off guard by another interview he recently had with Reality TV World.

Reality TV World asked him:

“You said when it came to the type of woman you were looking for that you wanted more of a role model, not maybe a parent necessarily. Can you just go into detail about what you were looking for, for your ideal woman on the show?”

Although Mesnick clarified that his son “Ty has already got a mother,” his response about the kind of woman he’s looking for baffled us.

“I’m looking for somebody who could be a partner for me, who can be a mentor for him, you know, with more authority,” said Mesnick.

“And I think the hardest thing to do is for somebody to walk in and say, ‘Hey, here’s your stepmom,” or “Here’s your stepdad.” Versus, like, “Hey, here’s Daddy’s – here’s my partner and she’s also, you know, she’s also going to be a friend to you, she’s going to be a mentor to you, she’s going to help you, she’s going to help you learn. But you’re also going to have to listen to her.”

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“Listen to her?”

What does Jason Mesnick mean by that?

Is he really hoping to find a life partner? Or a step-mother for his son? Or both? It’s not clear.

“Listen to her” is code for your step mom is not a peer.

The way that Jason Mesnick puts it, his future wife will very likely to be a second mom. While he might be the one who makes the rules, she will be expected to enforce them.

If Ty’s future step-mom makes a request — say, asking Ty to brush his teeth or wear a bike helmet — will she be the one to enforce the rules if Ty doesn’t follow them?

And, will she and Jason have agreed on “pre approved” consequences?

We know that blended families can be complicated. We’d love to have Jason clarify exactly what role his future wife will have in Ty’s life.

Your turn:

Will you be watching “The Bachelor” on Monday night?
If you’re part of a blended family — with a boy/girlfriend or fiancee — we’d love to hear if your partner is also an “authority.”

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