On Facebook, what’s your status?
Do you remember that Sex and the City episode in which Berger dumped Carrie with a Post-It note?
Carrie: Oh uh, Berger broke up with me on a post-it.
Miranda: On a post-it?
Carrie: Uh huh. Uh huh. Yep. Read it and weep my friends.
Samantha: (Reading the Post-It) “I’m sorry, I can’t. Don’t hate me.”
Apparently, Facebook has replaced the Post It note. We’ve heard about more than one couple who has broken up through a Facebook message. (We have yet to hear about a break-up Wall-to-Wall, have you?)
This all makes us wonder: how has Facebook impacted your love life?
For example, if you’re interested in someone, do you ask to be friends so that you can check his/her “Relationship Status”?
Do you have your own “Status” listed as “Single”?… Hey, it beats the price of online dating, right?
If you’re dating someone, do you find yourself checking his/her Facebook page more often to peek at updates?
Then, there’s the whole issue of exes.
One single mom recently told us that her break-up with a guy she’d been seeing exclusively has been harder thanks to Facebook.
She doesn’t want to “de-friend” him, but she keeps getting updates on his life through Facebook. A few times a day, she also visits his page just to see what he’s up to — which only makes matters worse.
We’ve talked to many women whose ex-boyfriends have asked to be their friends, years after a break up. Have you experienced this?
Do you “accept” — or ignore this guy who seems to want to be your new best friend? After all, you told us loud and clear that you won’t be best friends with an ex.
We are super curious about this, and can’t wait to hear what you have to say!
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There have been some amusing things happen with her friends and family on Facebook in connection with my relationship.
As for having an ex as a friend on facebook. I don’t. If I want them to know something about my life I’ll tell them (I hope they aren’t holding their breath). They don’t need to have access to my facebook. In fact, I don’t let the vast majority of the friends I’ve made in life be a Friend on facebook. I exchange the information that I want them to have with each person. My own adult child is not my facebook friend. I’m haven’t been on face book 6 months yet and beyond a few amusing events I don’t see the attraction. Almost annoying have to keep explaining to people why I won’t be facebook friends when I’m already their friend. Because they are my friends they understand.
I would view using facebook to break up with someone to be in extremely bad taste. Even if you’re 2,000 miles away at the very least take the time to hand write a Dear John/Jane letter.
I’ve had women become my friends to date. Also for the women I’ve dated and broken up and we decided to stay friends. I use Facebook to stay in contact and see if they were telling the truth on the friendship status.
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M: I’d love to know why you and your adult child aren’t Facebook friends. Privacy? Have you asked each other to be friends?… This is another great post idea!!
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I’m not friends with any exes on FB. I don’t think I would be if asked either but I guess it depends on who asked.
I have changed my “status” from “in a relationship” to “single” before and people start commmenting like it’s a bad thing. It’s funny.
I am not FB friends with my 17 yr. old, but I’m fine with that. I think we both enjoy the privacy it gives us. She shares a lot with me in real life and that’s enough.
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I saw an old friend’s relationship status change from married to single. That was sad. Sadder that I found out through Facebook. (We were ‘friends’ there, but hadn’t connected in real life in years)
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It’s the responses to someone’s changed status that really amuse me.
One single dad I know changed his status just to see how folks would react… let me see if I can get him to comment here. John F??
My facebook status is unlisted, so it doesn’t show if I am single or not. I assume everyone knows I’m single, but I don’t flaunt it.
I had a brief relationship with someone last summer thanks to facebook. We hadn’t seen in each in a few years and used ‘Scrabulous’ to flirt and eventually hook up.
I have had to de-friend pretty well everyone I’ve dated, including my son’s father. I’m prone to online-stalking when I’m bored, and I didn’t want any temptation. As well, I didn’t want to give them the option of checking up on me either.
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Guilty as charged Rachel! I am relatively new to FB and it is funny how so many people take it as gospel. I am terminally single and for giggles, changed my status to “engaged”.
Well, I had dozens of congratulations on my page, many emails and an irate call from my ex wife. You know the old “so do you have something you want to tell me?” line.
It was funny, but the only one who doubted me was one of my first girlfriends from 30 years ago with whom I just reconnected.
Then I changed it back and got a flutter of “oh my I am so sorry” posts.
It was a great insight to the power of FB.
But I do have my ex as a friend (and several ex girlfriends), I am somewhat an open book and really don;t care too much about other peoples’ voyeurism fetish. But if I was concerned or wanted to keep some exes out of the current loop, I woudl likely make a list in FB and tweak the privacy settings so they can only see what I want them to see!
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Thank you John F!!
See why I wanted him to open up about his, uh, story?
John, you have really summed up the Facebook Relationship Status. Thanks. Anyone else relate?
Karissa: I love the fact that you’re so honest… you de-friend your exes so you won’t feel tempted to stalk them.
We understand!
Guilty on so many levels it’s not even funny. And I’ve even dumped via Facebook but then chickened out and blamed computer gremlins, dodgy software and anything else I could think of. And sadly heard about 2 old friends upcoming divorces via their status updates.
Given that I fully realise how bad I am with Facebook stalking I have the security set to the max and have a rule of not adding any potential love interests until they know me better. They don’t need to see drunken photos until they’ve actually seen me drunk in person
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Rachel, I know about data stored on servers, so I prefer to limit the data on me. So I guess privacy is the biggest issue for me.
My children (including those still at home) and I have each other’s phone numbers and email addresses. I read my email more often than I view facebook, but we usually just call each other.
Even my face book friend talks with me on the phone more than anything else.
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I joined Facebook just as my marriage was ending, so I had been “single” for the past two years.
In November of last year, I started dating someone. I was hesitant to update my status to “in a relationship” but just did it with little fanfare.
Unfortunately, the relationship didn’t last and last month I changed the status back to “single”. Needless to say, I was overwhelmed with wall posts and emails and people at work talking to me. So much so that I ended up blogging about it (the link below).
I’ve still got her as a friend on Facebook (for now…we’ll see how uncomfortable it gets) and I’ve got some other ex’s as friends, too (from older relationships). I don’t have my ex-wife, though…seems a bit creepy.
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I don’t list my status how uncool am I!
Oh god. I had an embarrassing experience because I forgot how FB records every little damn thing you do. I just wanted to get rid of the “single” on my page…not even change it to “in a relationship.” If I’m single and I want you to know about it, you will. But then it showed up as a status change and I got a gazillion comments. Including from my boss.
Can you say embarrassing?
I don’t have any exes on FB but I’m friends with a few people I’ve dated once or twice. It doesn’t really bother me and I doubt they even check up on me.
One thing that was creepy was when an ex kept turning up under the “people you may know” section of FB. (Not someone I’d want to friend.) Eventually I figured out that you can just “x” that person out and FB will stop recommending them as a “person you may know.” Ugh. Still, I’m addicted to it
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I don’t list my relationship status on FB. I am not sure I would want to use it as a dating facilitator. It is too easy to forget how many people are seeing what is written on your wall. I am “friends” with three ex boyfriends, all at their request. One old boyfriend (who has been married to his next girlfriend after me for years) opens a chat with me every time he sees me online. If I were his wife, I would cut him off FB, because he is definitely on the prowl.
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I’m happily single. I don’t expect that to change anytime soon. The only thing that bothers me is when I go to FB, all of the ads they show me are for dating sites. Just because I’m single doesn’t mean I want to date!
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