When the bio-dad is your lover – and you’re married

Just in case you’re new here: our Singlemommyhood community embraces everyone – married, single, or anything in between. We share what’s really going on in our lives. We count on one another to listen  – and unselfishly share heart felt advice.  So, when a married mom contacted us with a terrible dilemma, we took a [...]

Have you ever fallen for a lie?

We get emotional when you share your painful break-up experiences with us.  Admittedly, some of your relationships – like dating a separated guy – were risky. You’re quick to acknowledge that ignoring obvious red flags was your personal choice. And we’re quick to point out that hindsight is always 20/20. Juggling responsible parenting with dating [...]

What happened to the digital souvenirs after your break-up?

Valentine’s Day is over – and some of you are relieved. If you’re in the midst of a painful break-up, or just recovering,  images of happy couples in love are painful reminders. Maybe you’ve agonized over your own relationship “souvenirs,”  especially the photos. We understand.  All of us have grappled with this dilemma.  So, it’s [...]

When should kids sleep at a boyfriend’s house?

You’ve shared your worries about how to combine responsible parenting choices and strictly adult pleasures. We’ve talked about introducing – or not – dates to our kids. And we’ve debated the wisdom of grown-up sleepovers. We’ve never discussed, however, when it’s appropriate to involve our kids in our overnight romantic plans. So, when this new [...]

Are you just the transition relationship?

  “I just started dating a great guy, but I’m worried,” began an email from a single mom we know. “You see, I’m the first woman he has dated since his marriage.  He’s fantastic,” she went on, “but I know – for a fact – that the first person someone dates after a major break-up [...]

When you’re married. And he won’t help with the kids.

When we opened up the conversation about married moms who feel like single moms, the torrent of heart breaking tales from married woman doing double — and triple duty — shocked us. The lack of emotional support and no “extra set of hands” to help with the kids were a stark reminder that *married* carries [...]

How to survive a dry spell

We recently heard from the single mom of two teenagers about what she refers to as her latest “dry spell.” Her dating life has been up and (mostly) down since her divorce a few years ago. Things didn’t work out with her last boyfriend after she found out that he’d been seeing someone else behind [...]

How do you know when your marriage is over?

When we opened the conversation about married moms who feel like single moms, you candidly shared your frustrations about doing “double duty” as the only emotionally available parent. Still, the prospect of single motherhood can feel terrifying  — we get it. So, when this married mom contacted us for advice, we knew that many of [...]

3 reasons why breaking up with a bad boy is SO hard to do

We’re positive you know what we mean by bad boy: that guy who wakens up something inside that you’d forgotten — and also the guy who totally messes with your heart and head. You know this guy is *wrong*. You know he doesn’t have the capacity — or desire — for honest intimacy and commitment. [...]

When your boyfriend doesn’t want a life with kids

Single parenthood changes everything about dating. Balancing responsible parenting with finding love is never easy. Sometimes our romantic partners just don’t get along with our kids — we get it. Here’s what recently surprised us: a single mom contacted us with a relationship crisis. Yet, when we asked what it’s like when her boyfriend does [...]

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