Moving in together?

A single mom whom we adore has contacted us for some help. She asked if we’d post her current dilemma here — anonymously — and we gladly agreed.

So, here’s her situation:

“I’ve been dating an amazing guy for more than a year and we’re talking about taking the next step: moving in together!”

She has two kids, and he has none. Here’s the deal: “My daughters adore him, and vice-versa. We’ve talked about getting married someday. He’d love to have a child of his own, and I’m very open to this, too.”

They’ve discussed all the practical logistics, such as finding a home in the same school district for the kids’ sakes, sharing daily chores, budgeting for household expenses, and their bank accounts. She adds: “I’m paying off my credit card debt and finishing college.”

“He’s an incredible support when it comes to being both a partner and a potential co-parent. As you can imagine, I’m exhausted most of the time and I hope that moving in together will make things easier.”

So, what’s the problem?

Well, how do I know I’m making the right decision? My kids are my No. 1 priority — and the last thing I want to do is drag them through another break-up.

Moving in together feels right — but how do I know for sure?”

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Like all of us, this mom has had her share of relationship blunders. So, we’d love to hear your thoughts on this one:

How do you know when moving in together is right?

Is there anything else this couple should talk about before making a final decision?

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