Do you need to move?

Rachel at Single Mom Seeking has been writing about moving to a new home.

While her daughter is handling the situation smoothly, Rachel is stressed.

We know many of you have recently moved, or are in the process of moving. Some of you are selling your homes. Some of you are moving because of lousy circumstances.

We understand.

That’s why I’m happy to offer you some advice so that you can make a stress-free transition to your new home:

Take time to listen to your kids. No matter why you are moving, your kids will have feelings. They might be devastated about moving away from friends. They might be worried about changing schools and making new friends. Take time out of your hectic moving schedule to talk about how you feel and what you’ll miss. 

Kids need an explanation. It’s only fair to explain to kids why you’re moving. Keep the explanation age-appropriate and as hopeful as you can muster. You have permission to be honest about money. There’s no shame in talking about a job loss, a mortgage you can no longer cover, or the other parent’s money woes.

Look on the bright side. This is the ideal time to banish the ex-cooties and get rid of the clutter! Hold a yard sale and squirrel away the proceeds, if possible, for a family treat. Resist the impulse to fund a marriage museum. It makes no financial sense.

Accept help. Moving is not the time to strive for “super parent’ status. When friends and family offer to help, respond with a specific request. For example,  say “yes” to an extra set of hands to move something awkward, or accept an offer for childcare on moving day.

Put your kids first. At your new home, unpack and get the kids settled first. Resist the urge to get everything in your new home set up right away. That’s way too daunting! If your kids are going to a new school, arrange for a tour before their first day. Walk around to get familiar with landmarks like the library and playground. Don’t forget to teach your kids their new address and telephone number — including the area code.

Are you planning to move — or have you just moved recently?

What advice can you add to ease the stress of moving, especially in these tough econcomic times?

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