Does this make you run like hell, too?
Let’s face it: it’s only human to stretch the truth at times or exaggerate. But the way we see it, a guy telling an outright lie about his life — for instance, about where he went to college or how old he is, or whether he is divorced instead of “separated” —is a big red flag!
We both have had our share of not such great experiences with “bad guys.” If we thought the guy had fibbed, we’d feel queasy for a moment — that was our gut telling us to stay away from this guy — but often we’d ignore it.
“Singlemommyhood,” however, totally changed what we’ll accept.
We try to weed out the guys who are: chronic liars, pot smokers, chronically under employed, fiscally irresponsible, swear-aholics, sports fanatics (not just fans), guys who somehow never grew up, and middle aged guys with little long-term relationship experience.
Chronic liars are just too much work. Ultimately, what good can come from a relationship with a guy you feel you need to check up on 24/7 ?
Of course, there is a huge difference between the social fib (“Of course, I love sushi —Truth: I’m happiest eating a juicy red meat burger.”) and an out and out lie.
Finding out that he lied is like seeing that one lone roach — you know there are 10,000 more multiplying daily.
So, we run like hell when we detect dishonesty in a possible romantic partner
No looking back!
Tell us: What’s your #1 relationship red flag?
Of course, lying is not a male trait: women have been known to do it, too.
The point is: whether you’re a single mom or a single dad out there dating, you’ve got to keep your eyes open wide.
What causes you to run like hell?
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I am still learning but I do know that any man who is not forgiving of his ex and who is negative and judgmental of other women… will definitely make me RUN LIKE HELL!!
Smokers that are in denial make me run. I hate those who have been ‘quiting’ for years. Or only smoke when they have a cocktail or two. That means you’re still a smoker. ugh.
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Men who are angry and have not forgiven… and smokers. Good ones “T” and Eathan!
Dating is really such an interesting study in human behavior, isn’t it? Ah, patience.
Women who are overly jealous make me run the heck the other way. Also, women whose only interests have to do with a mirror, plastic surgery, or reality tv are kind of squirrley as well.
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Kevin: Thanks for visiting. What tips you off/turns you off that a woman is “overly jealous”?
Well, a red flag for me now is a man who says “the L word” after one week. I very stupidly didn’t run from that on a recent occasion, but now I will!
Men who blame all their problems on their ex-wife. Especially if they have no momey, because of child support, or that the divorce was all the ex’s fault. Don’t get me wrong there are exceptions to every rule, but come on they should take some accountability somewhere, it takes two to tango, lol.
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Mama Dharma: We can all relate . . .don’t we all want to hear the “L” word?
Lisa: No question, it does take two. It’s really a positive sign that a relationship has potential when someone does take a generous share of the responsibility for the break-up.
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Peter Pan! Emotionally unavailable- can’t be there and is not willing to make room for a ‘real’ adult relationship beyond friends with benefits in his life. what? can’t look at it and can’t fathom a relationship in your life? bye-bye!
clever beatrice: Hmmm . . .sounds like you speak from experience!
I run like crazy from men that have CRAZY psychotic ex wives.
Learned the hard way, she almost cost me my job, my kids, my life — even though they had been divorced years before we even met.
First question now is … any psycho ex’es I might want to beware of?
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Rosie: What a scary story! You do tend to think you’re safe when he’s been divorced for years, but, gee, I guess may-be not.
Any woman who asks me how I make money will make me run like hell. I worry that she is only looking for a financial lifeline, and not a relationship. I want a woman to connect with me, not my wallet.
Better to ask how I spend my days.
I run when I see the pattern of someone “saying” all the right things, but not “doing” the right thing! Talk all you want…I want to know you can back it up!
Twitter @ Singlemommyhood
Anicolek: Back to something very basic and well said . . .actions do speak louder than words.