When is it okay for kids to meet someone you’re dating?

This concern just might make it the No. 1 spot in our “Asked Most Often” category. MANY of you have emailed this question to us: “When is it okay for me to introduce my kids to meet someone I’m dating?” (And, yes, we’ve both asked ourselves this very same question!  We wish we had an [...]

When co-parents do NOT agree

Because we’re both solo parents — we’ve been raising our kids without an ex in the picture — we often turn to YOU for advice when it comes to co-parenting. One of the biggest challenges we hear from co-parents is how to let go when your kids are with your ex. It can be challenging [...]

When your ex never leaves

As many of you know, neither of us got the chance to co-parent with an ex — unlike so many of you. Thank you for opening up about everything from how challenging co-parenting can be to what’s it is like to spend holidays with your ex. So, when we read this very honest Modern Love [...]

Divorce cakes?

When I first read about this new trend of women celebrating their divorces — with cakes! — I thought the idea was hilarious. How can you NOT laugh at the cake (above) in which the ex-wife is taking the garbage out. Get it? And check out my favorite cake — via the Daily Mail –  [...]

Everything you always wanted to know about ex

Both of us have written honestly about how long it took us to get over our exes. Rachel was married in her early 20s — and went through a long court proceeding in NYC to get divorced. When Rachel went to court to get sole custody of her child… her ex didn’t show up. Dr. [...]

Are you sleeping on “their” sheets?

Has this ever happened to any of you? You’ve had another fun, fabulous date — filled with great conversation, laughter, and sexual chemistry — and he invites you to his place. For the first time. The timing is perfect: your kids are at your ex’s for the night — and his daughter is at a [...]

New beginnings

In honor of spring, we’ve got new beginnings on our minds! And behind the scenes, we’ve been working on our new logo, which we’re thrilled to show off here! We know that you’ve been very busy getting things done, because you’ve openly shared so much about your lives since we launched (in December ’08!). We’re [...]

Does Dad come into your home?

Does your ex come into your home when he’s picking up the kids? Although neither of us has personal experience with this –  we’ve raised our kids solo — we sure hear about this scenario from moms. Let’s say that it’s your ex’s weekend with the kids. You’re scurrying around your home to pack their [...]

Why bad mouthing fathers online is a bad idea

Surely, you’ve noticed this lately online: there has been A LOT of controversial bad-mouthing of fathers. Interestingly, readers’ comments have highlighted the fact that the single parent community needs to protect our kids. We all agree that kids get hurt when one parent bad-mouths the other. We also know that, someday, our kids will go [...]

When your ex is the “fun dad”

“Not Fun Mom” recently wrote to us: “I split up with my ex shortly after our daughter turned two.  Our arrangement for the last year has been shared custody — one week at my house, then one week at Dad’s house. Everything with “Dad” is fun and games. He is self-employed with extremely flexible hours [...]