Good sex and the art of multi-tasking
by Dr. Leah
Filed under Sex, Single Parents, Tips & Advice
If there’s one quality that single parents deserve medals for, it’s multi-tasking.
No matter how you became a single parent, you have quickly learned how to prioritize and do things simultaneously. It’s an incredible asset, don’t you think? We do!
So, what does multi-tasking have to do with good sex?
Although it’s kind of embarrassing to admit this, when we first became single parents, we thought of sex as something we used to do — but did not do anymore.
Our lives were too frazzled, between endless laundry, utility bills, play dates, school and work… and, yes, an inescapable desire for sleep.
But being a parent is all about being a grown-up. Fortunately, grown-ups get certain perks.
Great sex is the best of these perks.
One of the reasons we launched this site is because your libido needs some attention. Believe us, we know what it feels like to have long-dormant libidos.
As we balanced our daily tasks as new single moms, neither of us had a clue about how to meet our sexual needs while taking the best care of the children we both cherished. There was no website to guide us.
And, of course, when Dr. Leah’s kids were little there were no self help books for single moms which even mentioned S-E-X.
So, we’re giving all of you Multi-Tasking Gold Medals. But how will you jump start your long-dormant libido?
If you could carve out just an extra 15 minutes a day to devote to sex, where will you start?
How about some early morning sex fantasies?
Or, flirting during your lunch hour with that cute guy you’ve seen at the cafeteria?
Please let us know your best tips on how to get a jump start on the best-known “grown-up perk.”
(Or, is your sex drive blissfully in overdrive? Let’s hear about it!)
(For the record, that’s not a picture of either of us. It’s closer to our “fantasy self” when our sex lives seemed like a distant memory.)
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I think it starts by remebering you are a woman too, not just a mom. Taking care of yourself physically and emotionally and making time for yourself – often. It can be done, really. I’m a mom of four, and a single mom for the last 7 years. I love my kids and I put them first most of the time, but they can’t be happy if mom’s not happy so I have to put myself first sometimes too. This mind-set helps open the door for a healthy sex life.
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Another way to feel sexy is to take a dance class. Belly dancing always makes me feel more feminine and like a beautiful goddess! I also love latin dance. Whatever suits you!!
Be healthy. Go out and flirt. Indulge in some sexy clothes. Treat yourself to a great sex toy. Get to know who you are and love yourself for it!!
And if you can work in a friend with benefits, I’d highly recommend that too!
I always find time for sex.
I’m still a little confused about this “single parent busy-ness” thing. I was a married parent for eighteen years, and found that “frazzled, between endless laundry, utility bills, play dates, school and work… and, yes, an inescapable desire for sleep” was definitely the definition of my experience. I am sure there are some who would say, “Yes, but you had another adult to share those responsibilities with.” This may or may not be true. But in any case, the price you pay for that extra person is certainly high in many ways and just really negates any amount of positives received.
If it’s important you schedule it. I use to do it when I was married once we had a child. Things just don’t “happen” as much as you get older.
Mostly spontaneous, but sometimes scheduled. Being a single father and seeing a single mother means there aren’t too many “over night” times, but when there are the early morning, and late morning too when possible, is always great.
I think it’s funny how my teenage children think that “dad” is too old to still be sexually active.
15 minutes? Not worth the effort.
Need at least an hour. Several if it’s going to be really “great”. Never rush foreplay. It’s one of the cases where more really is better.
I remember having sex. I think I remember liking it.
Jim: And I remember having just those same thoughts. Hoping things change soon.
M: Kids think we’re too old for lots of stuff, especially sex. Their ignorance is our bliss …
Catty granny terri: So interesting what you said about the benefit of a partner and the extra hassle created. Going to think a bit about that.
T: FWB option seems to work for lots of single moms
T ~ “work IN a friend with benefits”
LOVE IT!
is sex an art?
what do you think about that??