Madonna to adopt again?

Madonna, you’re an icon. It’s impossible to ignore the latest news about your family.

Both of us are all about supporting other mothers’ parenting decisions. Of course, we’re on the record urging Nadya Suleman to place her babies up for open adoption.

We remain strong believers that no one should make the rules in your life but you.

But we can’t help but wonder why you are adopting another child from Malawi.

(If you haven’t yet heard, 50-year-old Madonna is trying to adopt an orphaned three-year-old girl named Mercy James.)

Mercy comes from one of the poorest parts in this tiny African country. Her mother died aged 18, five days after giving birth to her, and her father hasn’t been found.

According to the UK’s Daily Mail, Mercy’s uncles live in mud-brick shacks that have grass thatch roofs. There is no electricity and they can’t read or write. In fact, they’d never heard of Madonna until recently.

Madonna, if adopting another child is your strategy to divert attention from your complicated love life, it’s not working.

Unfortunately, your personal life now seems to be playing a part in the adoption proceedings.

A Malawi government source was quoted in the Herald Sun: “Our official policy is that we do not encourage our children to be sent into broken homes.” (Ouch! We haven’t heard “broken home” lately.)

Will this government policy doom your wish to adopt three-year-old Mercy James?

Frankly, it’s not your love life that concerns us. You deserve to have fun. And all of us have suffered break-ups. But here’s what troubles us:

Little Mercy needs to remain connected to her biological family and culture. Are you willing to do this?

In 2006, you adopted toddler David Banda in Malawi. When you visited Malawi last year with three-year-old David, his father says that he never got to see his son according to the Daily Mail.

We’re wondering how you are able to parent yet another adopted child? “Paid help” simply cannot take the place of a loving and present parent. Adopted kids who are suddenly transported a world away — from everything and everyone familiar to them — need extra attention.

You’re a legendary entertainer and a fabulously wealthy woman.

But, as a mother, don’t you face the same dilemma that the rest of us — ordinary moms — confront?

Your decision to adopt another child must mean that you are satisfied and confident that you are able to do it all.We’ve been keeping our eyes on you as you’ve maintained your jaw-dropping physique, evolved as a world-class performer, and managed the business empire you’ve created.

We are confident that you’ll resolve the ongoing custody dispute about your biological children, David and Rocco, yes?

Please be emotionally and physically present in your kids’ lives.

Your fellow mothers would dearly love to know how you do it all.

Photo of Madonna Guy Ritchie Rocco and Lourdes from PRphotos

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