Why is clutter is the enemy of great sex?
by Dr. Leah
Filed under Kids, Tips & Advice
- Is your kitchen table heaped with junk mail?
- Do you have a jumble of old newspapers or magazines … or piles of dirty laundry?
- What’s up with those dead houseplants in your kitchen?
If you’re wondering what clutter has to do with sex, The Sanity Fairy™ will tell you:
Clutter is the enemy of great sex. Why?
Because all of that mess is really a physical barrier between you and a potential partner. In other words, clutter gets in the way of pursuing any passion or pleasure.
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Please, let’s not confuse getting rid of clutter with getting organized. The organization craze has become a whole new industry. All those “organizational” gadgets and storage equipment are just pricey ways to manage stuff that you likely don’t need.
No, you don’t need to arrange and redo every drawer or closet. This is not necessarily about being neat. The point is to keep your clutter out of sight.
Likely, your kids’ drawers will remain a jumble and your make-up will always be scattered in different places. And, that’s okay. You’ve got better things to do than color code your kids’ sock drawers or arrange your lipsticks according to type and shade. Of course, you might want to consider getting rid of those make-up purchases that you wish you hadn’t made and anything with a funky odor. Less definitely is more.
But are there toys scattered down your hallway? Is your bed filled with Legos or Barbies? Do you have to step around piles of stuff to get from one place to another in your home?
We’d love to hear how YOU bust clutter! Any advice?
And if you’re having clutter issues — like Single Mom Seeking — please tell us which areas are your biggest challenges. (Your coat closet? Under your bed? That corner in the living room?)
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Good luck!
I think women think about all they have to do (like clean, etc.) while they’re having sex, thus the lack of interest (and, BTW, orgasms).
While cleaning the clutter, clean the clutter from within. (and that’s much harder to do plus housekeepers can’t go there!)
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I despise clutter! With four kids it’s a constant challenge to keep the clutter from multiplying but my rule is, “if I have to pick it up I can throw it away.”
I cannot completely relax if there’s visible clutter, BUT even when my bedroom was in the chaotic unfinished remodel stage I still had some great sex! Now that it’s finished I haven’t had the opportunity to see if sex would be better…
*sigh*
Just like MindyMom, I can’t relax when there’s visible clutter either (hence my messy basement–out of sight, out of mind).
Physical clutter = mental clutter. Mental clutter becomes more physical clutter. And it turns into an endless cycle, until you make a concerted effort to break it.
It means giving up relaxing on the weekend or taking vacation days (or sick days he he) to get it done, because we are just treading water most days, with no spare time for new projects.
It’s easy to say, “Take just an hour to tackle a closet,” but realistically I can’t clean out more than a drawer or two in an hour. A closet takes at least a half day. I can’t stand starting an organizing project and having to leave it to go do something else.
I was a little dismayed by the photo accompanying your post. Even in its most perfect state, I don’t think my house will ever look that Zen. I don’t have a lot of junk taking up every surface, but I do have a fair bit of things collected from traveling, beach combing, etc. I like having them around and looking at them every day. They make my house look like me and not a page from a Pottery Barn catalog. I think we all have to decide what level of clutter we can live with and what’s too much and work to find that balance.
I plan on selling my house this year, so the basement will have to get done eventually.
I need a rainy weekend and some good books on CD. Taking three bags of old clothes to Goodwill today–it’s a start. I don’t want to take the time I need to organize a garage sale (plus I have neighbors who will insist on participating, and I don’t want to deal with that). I’m banking on the karma organizing expert Peter Walsh says I’ll get from donating good used stuff instead of selling it.
Sorry for the ramble, but busting clutter has been at the top of my list lately. Good post!
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Priscilla, we really appreciate your comment.
And you’re right about that photo! It is TOO perfect, you’re so right.
At first, we had a photo of a cluttered fridge, and then I thought that a Zen-like photo might inspire (me?). Thanks so much for pointing this out.
Believe me, I’m writing this comment surrounded by boxes and things. Ironically, there’s a Pottery Barn catalog next to my computer. Thanks so much for keeping it real. We appreciate this so much!
Ugh…my closet is simply FRIGHTENING!!!!!!!!!! I have this thing, the rest of my place is pretty organized but just like Monica of ‘Friends’…I have a ‘messy closet’….maybe I should work on that! LOL
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