“You’re so lucky that your ex is out of the picture”

Other single moms have said this to Dr. Leah and me * a lot.* “You’re so lucky that your ex is out of the picture.” At first, we both had the same reaction: Lucky? Really? We raised our eyebrows and wondered: What is that supposed to mean? Eventually, we got it. And after reading your [...]

Break up: how do you “he-tox” him for real?

– A single mom blogger whom you might know has asked this great question: “How long does it take to get over someone?” We’re sure you have a lot to say about this one. Amy, who blogs at Singleness of Heart, separated from her husband more than two years ago. Last summer, she met a [...]

What happened to your wedding album?

We know that all of you are working hard to create the lives you deserve. For many of you, that begins with decluttering and purging out our your “marriage museum.” You’ve told us exactly how you have disposed those “souvenirs” from your past relationship. But one “souvenir” seems to stump many of you: What do [...]

Will you ever get married again?

When Rachel at Single Mom Seeking asked a while back if any of you think about getting married again, your raw honesty and candor awed us. “You’d think I’d be sour on the whole idea,” commented Solo Mother. “But I’d like to find someone I want to spend the rest of my life with. I [...]

When a no show parent break promises

We receive a lot of e-mails from you about “no show parents.” Here’s the most recent: “My ex-husband got all the parenting time he requested — it was part of our divorce agreement and I was all for it. Our kids adore him.” “But here’s the problem: he’s very irresponsible. More than half of the [...]

Are you just the transition relationship?

“I just started dating a great guy, but I’m worried,” began an email from a single mom we know. “You see, I’m the first woman he has dated since his marriage.” “He’s fantastic,” she went on, “but I know for a fact the first one after the relationship doesn’t have much of a chance. Right?” [...]

To the married moms who envy us: how about a truce?

When “my babies” were growing up I realized that the harshest critics of “singlemommyhood” were often married moms (ouch!). I’ll never forget the one mom who always seemed to work something about my divorce into our playground conversations. Her comments went something like this: “Your kids are really great despite the fact that you’re divorced.” [...]