Do you house share with your parents?

Zillions of us (not an official statistic) have lived with our parents (both us of … definitely!) as part of our transition to single parenthood. So, we nodded sympathetically when we received this earnest email from a mom with two toddlers (who are nine months apart): Here’s what this young mother told us: “I’m getting [...]

Should first date conversations include relationship status?

We know that many of you are dating — or thinking about dating again. So, we hope that you’ll offer some advice to this single mom who wrote to us. Thanks. This mom — who asked to remain anonymous — became single when she was pregnant and living abroad. We were honored to hear that [...]

“You’re so lucky that your ex is out of the picture”

Other single moms have said this to Dr. Leah and me * a lot.* “You’re so lucky that your ex is out of the picture.” At first, we both had the same reaction: Lucky? Really? We raised our eyebrows and wondered: What is that supposed to mean? Eventually, we got it. And after reading your [...]

When your ex never leaves

As many of you know, neither of us got the chance to co-parent with an ex — unlike so many of you. Thank you for opening up about everything from how challenging co-parenting can be to what’s it is like to spend holidays with your ex. So, when we read this very honest Modern Love [...]

It’s Christmas break and I haven’t met his kids

A single mom we’re privileged to know shared this dilemma with us: “I’m upset because my boyfriend hasn’t introduced me to his kids.” Our single mom friend filled us in on the details by email: “I have a great co-parenting relationship with my ex. My boyfriend, on the other hand, has a terrible relationship with [...]

My kid doesn’t need to meet my new girlfriend

“A couple of months ago, I started dating a woman whom I met at the gym, and I think I’m falling hard for her,” begins an email we recently received from a divorced dad of one. Great! So, what’s the problem? Well, this dad has always vowed to keep his parenting and dating lives separate [...]

Are you just the transition relationship?

“I just started dating a great guy, but I’m worried,” began an email from a single mom we know. “You see, I’m the first woman he has dated since his marriage.” “He’s fantastic,” she went on, “but I know for a fact the first one after the relationship doesn’t have much of a chance. Right?” [...]

Happy Father’s Day, Part I

Every day, we find comfort by reading many of the great dad bloggers we’ve discovered. We’re honored to know many of you online — and in person! Because we feel encouraged by you amazing fathers out there, our list is overflowing. So, we’re starting little by little to celebrate Father’s Day with this first shout [...]

To the married moms who envy us: how about a truce?

When “my babies” were growing up I realized that the harshest critics of “singlemommyhood” were often married moms (ouch!). I’ll never forget the one mom who always seemed to work something about my divorce into our playground conversations. Her comments went something like this: “Your kids are really great despite the fact that you’re divorced.” [...]

Here’s to the men we love

We started to write this really mushy Valentine’s Day post about finding love — and then we scrapped it. Why? Because we realized that we’re surrounded by love in this great, big blogging world of single parents. Who needs a Valentine when you have blog love? For the record, we know there are some single [...]