Since you asked… Sex in the bathroom?

My boyfriend and I are about to book a long planned vacation to the beach.

While I’m researching travel packages, however, he is 24/7 obsessed with joining the “Mile High Club.”

What’s the Mile High Club?

It’s sneaking off to the toilets to have sex during the flight. I’m sorry, but this does not appeal to me. I’ve told him that I have no interest in sex on the potty.

But he says he wants to do this just once and, if I really loved him, I’d do it.

Does he have a point? Should I just do it to satisfy him?

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Since you asked, Dr. Leah replies:

I agree:

Having sex in a public cramped public bathroom, with a line of anxious and uncomfortable people waiting for you to emerge?

No thank you.

When you do come out of the bathroom, no one will be fooled.

You are likely to get some knowing glances, as well as downright hostility.

Groping under those seldom laundered airplane blankets hoping your fellow passengers are distracted by the movie has nothing to do with affection, love, or respect. It is all about the thrill of having sex in public places.

The sex is not about connecting with you, it is being sneaky and getting away with it.

Here’s what I find worrisome. It’s his blatant attempts at emotional blackmail.

Haven’t we left that behind in high school? This whole conversation is about his needs. What happened to your expressed discomfort?

If you “do it” to make him happy, likely, you are going to feel resentful. Likely, you’ll ask yourself what happened to your needs for self respect and emotional comfort.

Relationships need mutual consent to thrive.

So, since you asked, MHC membership is clearly not a club you want to join. So don’t.

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We want to hear from you.

Should she reevaluate her relationship since her boyfriend seems to have so little disregard for her feelings?

Or, maybe has Dr. Leah has over-analyzed a simple request designed to spice up this vacation getaway?

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