How to dress for success. We mean sex.
by Rachel Sarah
Filed under Tips & Advice
We love sweatpants.
Both of us have numerous pairs of cherished sweatpants in our wardrobes. In fact, we write most of our blog entries in sweatpants.
But here’s the catch: we both write in private.
Don’t get us wrong: way back when, you could have caught us wearing sweatpants as our outfit of choice to run errands, meet friends for coffee, or take the kids to the playground. And we’re not talking about a pair of tight, sexy work out pants. We mean baggy, stretched out, not exactly pristine sweats.
Until we realized that sweatpants give off one clear, public sign: “I have given up.”
That’s why we’re suggesting — no, make that pleading — that you leave your sweatpants at home. (No, we are not suggesting that you leave the house in your panties!)
We are adamant about the fact that a “grown-up life” – that means a sex life that needs recharging — begins with never wearing sweat pants in public.
Here’s why: it is unlikely you will attract the kind of guy who will make you sweat (or pant) in the way you desire. (Men, the same goes for you when it comes to the ladies!)
No, of course, you don’t have to wear stilettos every time you step out the door. We’re talking about real life with kids, not the red carpet.
But you deserve one pair of great-fitting jeans. (Thanks Mindy from Single Mom Says for putting this so well!)
Jeans are the most versatile piece in your wardrobe. Even if you splurge, the cost per wearing is much lower than more trendy pieces.
They don’t even have to be new jeans. We know that everyone is feeling the economic pinch right now. We’ve all got pairs that just don’t fit right. How about hosting a clothing swap? Likely, everyone has got a “mistake” that’s just perfect for someone else. Fun, right?
Even if you just buy one new thing, no matter what your shape or size, there are jeans to make you look hot.
Our message is: love yourself enough to wear a pair of jeans that make your butt look enticing.
Remember when you took your child to four different department stores to find something dressy that he/she would wear almost cooperatively because it didn’t itch? You deserve the same time and attention.
After all, you do have an itch and need to have what it takes to get it scratched. We bet you know what we’re talking about.
Let’s hear from you! Are you guilty of WSPP? (wearing sweat pants publicly?)
Which item in your wardrobe “jump starts” your sex life?
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Jeans? Maybe, but if you really want to make an impact….
I was taking my single mom for a get-away day (and nights). She said we’d wear jeans to leave in. When I pick her up she walks out in a short dress and boots. After I recovered from my first thought (which I will not share, but was what she was shooting for), my second thought was “You said jeans. I’m in jeans, but you’re not”.
So, while you’ll never get the reaction from any pair of jeans that she got with that dress, I agree that single moms should remember how they attired themselves to catch a man in their pre-mommy days. Men still have the same primal hardwiring. The way you dressed to attract us before having children still works after you’ve had children.
Single moms are still women and can be just as sexy, eye catching and desirable as any other woman.
Rachel is right. Make sure you’re wearing the right packaging.
I have been guilty of WSPP but my weakness is usually the old broken in “fat” jeans and a big sweatshirt. That’s pretty much what I live in. Back before Christmas, I ripped my last pair of “decent” jeans (which were about 3 sizes too big thanks to the divorce diet) so I decided to treat myself to something new. Being that I’m currently unemployed, I headed to the Salvation Army thrift store. I got two pairs of awesome jeans that actually fit me (size 12…the ones I was wearing were 18W!) for $4 each. And just for good measure, I also picked up a cute little Liz Claiborne V-neck sweater for $1 and a Victoria’s Secret negligee (with the tag still on it!) for $.50. That’s the best $10 I’ve spent in a while! I’ve been trying to hit the thrift store once a week or so to go treasure hunting…the real trick for me is making myself reach for some cute clothes when I’m heading out the door to take the kids to school in the morning or run out just for a minute.
Thank you for this important public service announcement.
Twitter @ http://www.singlemommyhood.com
Jim: I’m practically on the floor, laughing… oh, your comment!
M: Here’s the the “right packaging”!
Wondermom: You’re a super shopper, impressive.
Twitter @ http://runningleap.wordpress.com
Jeans are super-important. I even get mine tailored if they are too long so they’re just the right length for the shoes I wear most often and you get get those “dragging scragglies” in the back of the cuff.
Other than that, the most important thing for me is a bra! I have to have a great fitting, great looking bra t feel sexy. And it makes a difference on the outside, because a great bra gives you the kind of shape that makes your shirt or dress looks it’s best. You can’t skimp on the bra!
Twitter @ http://www.singlemommindy.blogspot.com
I agree; women should NEVER leave the house in sweats! Cute workout pants are fine for running to the grocery store but otherwise looking put together helps you feel better about yourself.
Jeans are a single mom staple but they do have to be nice jeans, not baggy fat jeans. M is right that wearing something a little more dressy every now and then doesn’t hurt either. The extra effort is worth the reward ladies.
Thanks for the shout out!
Twitter @ http://goingsaneinacrazyworld.blogspot.com/
“I have given up.”
No truer statement was ever said. It’s exactly what I think when I see a woman out in them.
WonderMom: Wow! Fabulous shopping skill and absolute proof that you can look fabulous on a (tiny!) budget.
C: The right bra is essential especially for our “post kid” figures.
MindyMom: The shout out was well deserved. Thank you for inspiring us.
Mike: So happy you agreed with us!
Okay fine the baggy sweats you can have but your not taking away my jogging pants with the matching jacket or my yoga pants… You also wont catch me dead in a skirt unless your are some REALLY lucky guy.
I have to go find a new pair of jeans now. The ones that look best on me right now have a small hole in the knee. All my other ones are either too small or too big. Nothing fits just right.
Ok, but I’m NOT a jeans person. I don’t feel comfortable in them soooooooooooooooo…I treat myself to awesome LuLu’s instead! They are tres comfortable, never baby, and very flattering to the figure. Same difference right?