Have you ever dated a guy who Tweets?
by Dr. Leah
Filed under Dating, Single Parents
Although Twitter might seem mysterious and complex, really it isn’t. If we can Tweet, anyone can.
In short, Twitter is a mass text-messaging service that allows you to send 140-character updates — called “Tweets” — to lots of people at once. These people are your “followers.” Some folks get their updates on their cell phones, others read them online.
Tweeting might sound like texting, but the latter is about reaching out to a friend one-on-one to coordinate schedules — or to flirt. Twitter is about promoting yourself in mass volume with witty and succinct updates.
Some people, however, use Twitter to chat quite openly about their private lives. Which brings us to Twitter and sex.
We get the self promotion part (kind of), but we’re just not sure if Twitter should be so, uh, personal.
We’re curious: Do people “tweet” while on a date?
Now that we have close to 1,000 followers between us, we’d noticed first hand that some do. How do people mix Twitter with dating?
We’re confused: If a date is “tweeting while dating” (TWD), what’s the message?
Does TWD mean he’s so into you he wants to provide his posse — “followers” — with up to the second info on what you’re doing?
Or are you just being played? Maybe you’re just being used to fuel his burgeoning wittiness?
How would you react if your date tweeted about you in real time?
Maybe tweeting is just the new signal for “bad date.” Or, perhaps this guy doesn’t want to date at all. He just needs some Twitter inspiration, and it’s more fun to Tweet than to actually interact in real time.
If we noticed that a guy was Tweeting repeatedly on a date, we’d peg him as very self-involved. Wouldn’t you?
It would feel like he’s flirting with another woman while out with you — except he’s doing it virtually.
We’re also wondering: if a dedicated Twitter user does not “tweet” on a date, does this mean he senses potential?
If your relationship has potential, then wouldn’t your sex life be a strictly off-limits when the “boys” get together? Or are you simply not tweet worthy?
If you’re a secret from his social networking world, does this mean you are strictly a booty call? Or does tweeting silence signal real relationship potential?
We’d love to know your thoughts on this one. Thanks!
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I have yet to jump on the Twitter bandwagon, but I would hope that if I dated a guy that tweets, he would do so respectfully where I am concerned. If he didn’t that would tell me all I needed to know about him. I think whether one kisses and tells or tweets and tells is a matter of character.
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I have met and dated someone on twitter. I vowed not to write about her. But I will say that neither one of us TWD. We did tweet before going out…and some after.
I’m waiting to see a CNN story on meeting my husband on Twitter. haha
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I love twitter like the next gal, but I firmly believe that friends don’t let friends TWD.
Not guilty on this one, BUT, I do tweet before and after dates and then refer to the full details in my blog.
However, interesting one for you, I’ve been having a sneak peek at an exes twitter page and have been following him having an online argument with the latest girl thats dumped him. To say it’s hilarious is a vast understatement. Perhaps Facebook dumping is soooooo last year and it’s now all about Twitter dumping!!
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I had a great date the other night, and I twittered about it when she excused herself to the restroom. I wouldn’t tweet in front of a date – doing anything on your cell phone is bad date etiquette, Twitter or no.
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Dad’s House, we had you in mind when we wrote this post, but decided against “using” you as a bad example. Thanks for clarifying that your date had gone to the bathroom when you Tweeted… you’re fast!
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Yummy Mammy: OMG, “an online argument with the latest girl who has dumped him…” via Twitter?
I’d love to see that one! And how challenging to communicate your feelings in 140 characters.
Twitter dumping? Oh no!
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I write about food so I have sent photos to Twitter while with my girlfriend. I think she’s mildly annoyed sometimes but I try to do it fast and then I don’t check my phone again for the rest of the night.
Wait, what? Isn’t Dad’s House the one who wrote about how Twitter is bad for you because it takes you out of the present moment?
Why didn’t he take the time while his date was in the restroom to “quiet the mind and connect with inner peace” instead of engaging “some faceless, unknown, random people in the twitter-sphere”?
What happened to being “alert, still, completely present, not wanting anything other than that moment as it is”?
Uh-huh.
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I am truly “old skool” No tweeting on the actual date! Treat it the same as a cellphone or heaven forbid a laptop. Come on. If he or you are tweeting on a date…then he or you are not in to each other?
When you tweet in the company of others (unless you are at a tweet-up) you are essentially saying you do not matter to me. I take you for granted. My followers who hang on my every word are more important and deserve my attention…even though you are my real-life friend, date, dentist etc.
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You’re SO perceptive! We were waiting for someone to call Dad’s House on this!
So, Dad’s?
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I’m both a blogger and a Twitterer (Tweeter?).
I don’t text anybody (call me “old school”) so I couldn’t Tweet on a date, even if I wanted to. But I don’t want to. That’s just…I dunno…odd.
I would, however, blog about the experience if it was worth blogging about.
Other than 20/20 hindsight and clarity (along with the potential rudeness of Tweeting while actually ON the date), I don’t really see too much of a difference between the two mediums.
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